There was a time when love has been so graciously given. Simple days bearing gifts, ordinary dealings serving special treats, and out of occasions"s sweet exchanges. That was many years ago and as time takes a toil to test the chains of endearment, so does the people involve changes.It must be the long years of knowing each other so much that hindered the growth of a promising relationship. It must be the trials faced through the times that gapped communication. It must be the constant asking for support that finally snapped the thread of connection and trust.
For life isn't all giving. While giving is divine, there should be limits set before everything is out of control. But this does not materialized because fear is on the way. The fear of being physically hurt and the fear of being scarred through ill refute, the spread of false news. So even if the rope is almost at the end, the giving never stops.
So love is now gone as it is now transformed in fear. The once happy get togethers become massive mishaps and then silent treatments. Voices are raised, eyes darting with fiery while unpleasant words are exchanged. It is no longer healthy. It is going towards hostility.
A relationship that borders on miscommunication or no communication at all brings not just anger and resentment but also failure and future quarrels. A relationship that generates no good energy simply must be shut off. And to say this, is easier said than done. The promises made are no longer the basis to continue loving. The loving is gone, long gone. Though fear permeates, the only fire within is the will to survive and the hope to be free from this bondage.
(Just an emo post)
*hugs*
ReplyDeleteThere's something about your last paragraph that reminded me that absence sometimes does not make the heart go fonder, but rather, it forgets.
It's sad how some things end, things given lose thier meaning, hearts get hurt, fears arises from uncertainty.
But still, try to see them with a smile. That we've started something beautiful wishing it would last, experienced giving without expecting anything in return, that we've expected and hoped amidst uncertainties... that even though you're bound to hurt, at least you were able to feel.
All things, when we looked back, we know we've lived a full life.
In anycase, not all have ended or gone.
you are loved.
by friends you've met in unusual places. by kids you've taught and taught you in return. and by those whom you haven't met but will love you when they do.
<3
And a beautiful emo post that I can currently relate to..
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We're starting to build that "trust" up again.. slowly, but surely.
Jeff,
ReplyDeleteThanks for the wonderful words. I surely will have to contemplate on those written wisdom of yours.
I always forget, to live a full life is better than not to experience them all.
Kris,
ReplyDeleteYou surely can relate because you were "gone" for so long and I couldn't even open your site.
Good luck my friend, at least, you are working on it, together.
Fear really emerges ... fear of repeated verbal abuses. But we, as God-fearing children, would still continue to give our love and support. We can continue hoping, praying and wishing that someday we will be free from this bondage.
ReplyDeleteIn Mt 10:16 "behold, I am sending you like sheep in the midst of wolves, so be shrewd as serpents and simple as doves." Continue loving and forgiving as always as the Lord commands us.
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